Before I made music my work, I spent six years as a licensed funeral director and mortician in the United States. I sat with families in the worst hours of their lives, and I learned what music can and can't do in a room of grief. This page is for families and funeral directors looking for music that honors the moment without performing on top of it.
Why the flute fits here
The Native American flute is one of the few instruments that does not ask anything of the listener. It does not require attention; it allows it. It can sustain a single long tone beneath a eulogy without competing with the words. It can play a familiar melody at the end of a service that gives everyone a place to rest their grief without forcing tears or asking for them. It is not religious to any one tradition, but it is reverent to all of them.
Where the flute fits in a service
- Arrival music — quiet flute as guests are seated, holding the space before the service begins.
- Processional — for the family as they enter or as the casket / urn is brought in.
- Underscore beneath a eulogy or reading — sustained low tones, so soft that they're felt more than heard.
- A featured piece — a single song that anchors the service, often placed before or after the central reflection.
- Recessional or graveside — a closing melody to walk out to, or a final breath at the burial or scattering.
- Reception or wake — atmospheric music as guests gather afterward.
Song selection
Families typically choose between a traditional Native American flute song, an interpretation of a piece that mattered to the person being honored, or a piece chosen to match the tone of the service. If there was a song they loved that suits the flute, I'll learn it. If you'd rather I choose, I will — and I'll tell you what I'm going to play before the service, so nothing is a surprise.
What's included
- A pre-service conversation — by phone or video, brief if you prefer, longer if it helps
- Coordination with your funeral director, celebrant, or officiant on cues
- Arrival 30 minutes before the service for a quiet setup
- Music for the service itself, with optional additional music for the reception
Pricing
Starting at AUD $150
Held intentionally accessible. Travel and service length adjust the final quote. Discuss what works for your family.
Frequently asked
We're working with a funeral director — can you coordinate directly with them?
Yes, and often this is easier. Mention your funeral home and the director's name when you reach out, and I'll handle the rest. As a former funeral director myself, I know how the service runs and what cues to listen for.
Is the flute appropriate for a religious service?
Yes. The Native American flute is not tied to any one tradition, and I've played within Christian, Jewish, Buddhist, secular, and non-denominational services. The music sits respectfully alongside whatever liturgy or readings shape the service.
Can you play graveside or at a scattering?
Yes. Outdoor settings — graveside, ash scattering, garden services — are some of the most meaningful places for this instrument. The flute carries naturally in open air.
How quickly can you respond? Some services are booked on short notice.
I know. Reach out by phone or text and I'll respond as quickly as I can — within hours where possible. For services within the week, please call or text rather than email.
Will you play a specific song that mattered to them?
Where it suits the instrument, yes, and I'll tell you honestly if a particular song won't translate. Many pieces work beautifully on the flute that you might not expect.